December 2, 2025

Thoughts on Litigation From a Litigator

By Laura Trachtman

I really love being a litigator. I love the challenge, the intensity, the stamped copy of a document signed by a judge saying, “Oh no, she is absolutely right.” But not everyone feels that way. Litigation is all-consuming in terms of time, money, and energy. So why litigate? 

Here is the caveat: Many of you know that I was raised by a litigator, my late, lamented father, Alan Trachtman. The story of the birth of my career as a litigator goes like this: The whole family was at my grandparents’ place out on Long Island to celebrate a holiday. My big brother, David, allegedly engaged in some conduct that displeased my parents. He was warned to stop once, then twice.  After a third warning, he was sent to his room as a punishment for disobedience. At the ripe old age of two, I said to my parents, “David shouldn’t be sent to his room. He is a good boy. He didn’t understand that what he was doing was wrong, and even if he did, he’ll never, ever do it again.” My father, Chief of the Supreme Court Bureau in the Kings County District Attorney’s Office at the time, turned to my mother and said, “She just argued that case better than half of my assistants.” Accordingly, he trained me from a young age to cultivate this particular predilection by fabricating the following rules for my childhood:  “If you want something, tell me why. If you throw a tantrum, you’ll never get it.” “Get good grades and I’ll reward you.” And finally, “You can be anything you want after you go to law school, [which later changed to “after you pass the bar” and then to “after you get admitted to practice].”. So obviously, this is the only life I have known and I adore it. 

Not everyone was raised by Alan Trachtman, however, so it helps to explain how I approach the topic of litigation in discussions with my clients. The first thing I say is that “in litigation, the only people who win are the attorneys.” And generally speaking, this is true: We get paid regularly or we leave the case, while the parties need to wait for either a judgment or a settlement to get paid. And even then, the relief they fought for is not always guaranteed. However, litigation is sometimes what a client needs, for whatever reason. I want to do the best job possible for my own sake if not for my client’s, and that entails navigating three distinct areas: litigating effectively, litigating through uncertainty, and handling aggressiveness in litigation. 

How do I litigate effectively? Honestly, it basically comes down to paying attention. I have had maybe two motions to dismiss granted on complaints that I have authored in my entire career, because properly pleading is not hard, it is just time-consuming. The most important part of litigating is having the discipline not to rush, no matter how much you may want to. You need to take your time to ensure that you are doing everything correctly. This has been a struggle for me (I am sure you are clutching your pearls right now as I admit to impulsivity and lack of patience). But as I grow older, it becomes easier to be patient. 

How do I deal with the uncertainty of litigation? When a client asks me a question and I am not sure about the answer, I use three simple words: “I don’t know.” It is amazing how freeing it is to simply admit lack of knowledge instead of bluffing and possibly getting yourself into trouble. I used to hate admitting that I did not know something; I felt like a failure. But as I tell the children in my life, it is okay to admit that you just don’t know. The important part is knowing how to get the answer. So, when a potential client wants me to take on a case  that is not necessarily in my wheelhouse, I tell them upfront that this is not an area I know already, but I can either get myself up to speed or make a referral to another attorney. 

How do I deal with the aggressiveness of litigation? This is where my lifelong legal  training comes in. It helps that I have a naturally aggressive disposition (and again, I’ll pause for you to clutch your pearls). But as my mother always said: “Not every fight is a fight to the death.” Again, as I grew older, I learned that her wisdom is valid. While I am happy eviscerating opposing counsel, one catches more flies with honey than with vinegar, and so I always try to start with a cooperative approach. Once I have good cause to go for the jugular, I’ll avail myself of the opportunity, but until then, I remain civil. This has helped my clients on more occasions that I can count. This has also helped me: It takes more effort to point out the errors of others in excruciating detail than it does to communicate diplomatically. So by not constantly taking someone’s head off, I get to conserve my energy and foster a more positive exchange. It is a win-win. 

All of that to one side, litigation is exhausting, even for someone like me who loves it. At some point, I am going to have to decide whether I want to continue down this path or switch to a less impactful form of practice. Luckily, that day is not today. And if you’ll excuse me, I have to go gleefully explain to a judge how opposing counsel is totally and utterly wrong.